If you have been following my previous posts on “getting my girlfriend back”, you will have been laying down the foundations for getting your own girlfriend back. Go check out my blog on increasing your confidence next, and also check out how to attract women.

My last post on this topic basically told you to ignore your ex for about a month. If you were doing things right, she’s probably contacted you first; asking how you’ve been etc, and you’ve replied saying you’re great and have been having fun with friends, or something along those lines in a cheerful, cool and collect manner. Do not bring up your relationship at all! By not having initiated contact with your ex for so long, it forces her to realise your value. Human beings only ever truly value something till it’s gone.

If however, she hasn’t contacted you, it’s safe to now do so, however, talk to her as though she is a friend and that breaking up was for the best. Psychologically this creates a fear of loss within her, a loss that she will instinctively try to close, it also gives you a chance to present a new improved and confident you (hopefully just like you were when you first met)!

So what’s next? You’re in contact with your ex, telling her the break up is for the best, if you’ve followed my initial post, you’ve been dating other women, having fun with mates, changing your look etc. What you are doing here is displaying to her that you are moving on. To your ex this will create jealousy in her, and heighten that sense of loss, and increase her perceived value of you: you can find another girl so easily because you are in demand i.e. you’re high value, ergo she thinks ‘I should pursue this alpha male!’

Effectively what you have done is reversed the polarity of your relationship with her: before it was her pushing you away, now it’s you pushing her away, and naturally she’ll try to pull you back.

So what else can you do to increase this effect? Here’s a few tips:

-  Post lots of pictures on Facebook, Myspace etc of you at parties, clubs, with other girls.

-  On Facebook, Myspace, MSN etc. status updates, write, for example, “Going for drinks with Karen”. Advertise that you’re dating other women, but don’t be blatant about it, keep it subtle.

-  Flirt with these girls over Facebook/Myspace, your ex will be able to see these messages, again keep it subtle.

-  Lay subtle hints to her friends that you’re dating other women.

-  If you don’t have anyone to flirt with, make it up: ‘All’s fair in love and war’! Create a fake Facebook account, and send yourself flirty messages, again keep it subtle though!

If you played your cards right, she’ll be asking you to meet up, if you’re really lucky she may even ask to get back with you! If not ask if she wants to hang out, and take things from there!

Oh and for those that want to know, me and my ex have just started dating again (I’m having dinner with her next week!). Proof that this does work, I just wish I’d learnt it all a lot sooner!

The tips and advice I give I learnt from T-Dubs ‘Magic of Making Up e-book, I definitely recommend it to those serious about getting there ex’s back, you can learn so much more than I can show on here, so go check it out, and you’ll have your ex back in your arms in no time!

Good luck!

Part 1 of how I got my grilfriend back.

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