Getting my girlfriend back. Part 1
When I split with my girlfriend, I did really hit rock bottom, it wasn’t pretty! When I did finally become human again, the first thing I wanted to do was to get my girlfriend back. I spent days trawling the internet for advice and information on how I could achieve this. I bought several e-books on the subject, all had different pieces of advice and systems, one in particularly really helped me a lot, and not just with my ex but with myself. I followed its information, which was rather hard to stick to believe me, but I’m so glad I did stick to it! So if you’re in a situation where you have just broken up with your girlfriend/split with wife etc, try giving this a go, I promise you there will be positive results!
First things first, cease ALL contact with her. This is the hardest one to do, but probably one of the most important, so no matter what the urge, do not call her, text her, turn up on her door with flowers, or check her Facebook. Whilst you will hate it, the end results are all that matter right? This isn’t a self torture thing, this has immediate psychological effects that act in your favour. You see, whilst you ignore her she’ll eventually start to wonder what you’re doing and think about you. Why hasn’t he called me? Is he over me that quick? Why isn’t he miserable without me? She’ll forget about the bad times and start to think about the good times you had, and why she was attracted to you in the first place. Good stuff right, isn’t the human mind brilliant!
Do not be surprised if you get a message from her after a few weeks. Mine went along the lines of “Hey stranger, what you been up to?” Now don’t be an idiot and reply “Nothing much, moping around mainly, missing you like crazy!” Respond with a casual cheery message like “Hey, I’ve been hanging out with friends a lot! Last week we went clubbing in [insert local expensive nightclub here]! It was so much fun!” Don’t ask how she is or what’s she been up to, just keep it short and positive (even if you have just been moping about crying!).
So what should you be doing then? Do exactly what you’re telling her of course! Go out with mates, meet other women, go on dates, if you can try to let her see you on dates with other women. Also exercise; this will make you feel more attractive and confident in itself! More information of this system can be found here, it worked absolute wonders for me.
The reason you split up was because she lost attraction in you. She may never ever say that to your face but that’s the fact of the matter. It’s simple, you changed since you first started dating; she found you attractive then, so what’s gone wrong? Take the time to think about it, analyse your relationship, provided you didn’t do anything really bad, like kill her favourite dog, chances are it’s because you became what I have come to know as the “wussbag”; which is something that will frequently pop up here on this blog as it is a large part of male unattractiveness, and hinders your success with women.
For more information on how to get your girlfriend back check out ‘T-dub’s ‘Magic of Making Up’.
Also check out my blog on how to cope with breaking up.
How I got my girlfriend back part 2.
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Hey everyone, greetings from Germany. Does anyone have any advice on staying out of the “Friend Zone” with women? I’m really tired of women telling me they “just want to be friends.”
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