So you’ve been dumped, most of us have been there, so you’re not alone. This is the first article, of several, that will provide the most effective methods of surviving a break up, and help you either get on with your life, or eventually get your ex back.

-For starters, and I know most break up articles say this, but you MUST cut off contact with the ex. Do not call them, text them, meet up with them “just as friends”; don’t even check their Facebook profile to see what they’re up to!  Delete photos of them, previous messages, contact details etc. (alternatively you can box it all up and give it to a friend to hide).

-Focus on negative aspects of your ex; did they have an annoying laugh or a funny finger, anything negative about them, focus on it!

-Go out with friends…a lot! Try to minimise the amount of time you are alone. Try to go out to public places with them; meeting new people ALWAYS helps, even if it’s just a little bit. You never know you may meet someone else, and I know that’s not what you want to here right now, but trust me, dating another person does help. Believe it or not, it will also increase your chances of getting your ex back too (but that’s for another article). You don’t have to sleep with anyone else, just keep it harmless dates; maybe try online flirting etc.

-Exercise! Exercising makes us feel good about ourselves and will help rebuild your confidence. Also try buying some new clothes, getting a different haircut, changing styles etc. All these will help rebuilding you back to yourself again!

-Something which always helped me a lot recovering from a break up was to keep telling myself that the whole universe is so immensely huge that in comparison my problem is so miniscule in the grand scheme of things. There could be another person, in another solar system in the exact same situation as me. For some reason this gave me comfort.

-Visualise yourself with other partners, fantasise about them. Or even fantasise about what you would do if you ruled the world or had infinite money. It’s important you do not fantasise about your ex at all.

Follow these tips and you will definitely notice a decrease in the pain you feel after a few weeks!

Good luck!

I know I say it a lot but check out ‘Magic of Making Up’. It really helped me alot when I split with my girlfriend.

If you want to try and get back with your ex follow my blog posts here on how I got back with my girlfriend.

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Most men have absolutely no clue about how to attract women. Fact. Pick up experts argue that this is due to certain social aspects, but whatever the reason, you’re lucky enough to be reading this to discover what exactly it REALLY is women find unattractive in men.

Women are programmed to find certain characteristics about men unattractive. Now whether or not you believe in it (pretend for a moment), this is a product of evolution and is prevalent in all animals. Most women themselves are not aware of these characteristics that turn them off.

Whether you’re reading this because you are looking to get that girl you’ve been after, pull back a failing relationship, or to get an ex girlfriend back (like I talked about in my previous post), pay very close attention as I will reveal several of these characteristics that you MUST avoid at all costs!

Number One: Being jealous – Acting jealous is something women find incredibly unattractive. To boil it down to evolutionary terms, it screams “I feel threatened by other men, because I view myself as not good enough for you”. It displays weakness and insecurity, something we must avoid. You personally need to do the opposite; complement her guy friends when you talk to her, give her freedom to go where she wants without pestering her about it.

Number Two: Not holding yourself in high esteem – Women like a proud man. Value yourself as much as you value her. Do not worship her, treat her as an equal. Have your own hobbies and activities that you do separate from her, and she will respect you for it. Put all her needs above your own and she will lose all respect for you, and thus all attraction for you.

Number Three: Constantly seeking approval – Nothing displays insecurity more than constantly seeking the approval, it again displays low self esteem, which women find very unattractive. You have to tell yourself “I am high value, I do not need the approval of anyone!”.

Number Four: Clingy – In my experience this has been the biggest killer of very early relationships. Guy meets girl, gets on well with girl, girl likes boy, boy wants to see girl all the time, girl becomes less and less interested, boy gets ditched and doesn’t know why. Ever heard the expression “Too much of something is bad for you” this applies to humans as well. Back off, take things slow, don’t be in her pocket, let her chase you.

Learning to avoid these characteristics can greatly increase the chance that your relationship will not deteriorate, and your overall success with women.

I hope you have learnt something from this post.

More info can be found here on how to prevent breaking up.

Already split up? Check here to see me blog post on laying the foundations for getting your ex back.

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When I split with my girlfriend, I did really hit rock bottom, it wasn’t pretty!  When I did finally become human again, the first thing I wanted to do was to get my girlfriend back. I spent days trawling the internet for advice and information on how I could achieve this. I bought several e-books on the subject, all had different pieces of advice and systems, one in particularly really helped me a lot, and not just with my ex but with myself. I followed its information, which was rather hard to stick to believe me, but I’m so glad I did stick to it! So if you’re in a situation where you have just broken up with your girlfriend/split with wife etc, try giving this a go, I promise you there will be positive results!

First things first, cease ALL contact with her. This is the hardest one to do, but probably one of the most important, so no matter what the urge, do not call her, text her, turn up on her door with flowers, or check her Facebook. Whilst you will hate it, the end results are all that matter right? This isn’t a self torture thing, this has immediate psychological effects that act in your favour. You see, whilst you ignore her she’ll eventually start to wonder what you’re doing and think about you. Why hasn’t he called me? Is he over me that quick? Why isn’t he miserable without me? She’ll forget about the bad times and start to think about the good times you had, and why she was attracted to you in the first place. Good stuff right, isn’t the human mind brilliant!

Do not be surprised if you get a message from her after a few weeks. Mine went along the lines of “Hey stranger, what you been up to?” Now don’t be an idiot and reply “Nothing much, moping around mainly, missing you like crazy!” Respond with a casual cheery message like “Hey, I’ve been hanging out with friends a lot! Last week we went clubbing in [insert local expensive nightclub here]! It was so much fun!” Don’t ask how she is or what’s she been up to, just keep it short and positive (even if you have just been moping about crying!).

So what should you be doing then? Do exactly what you’re telling her of course! Go out with mates, meet other women, go on dates, if you can try to let her see you on dates with other women. Also exercise; this will make you feel more attractive and confident in itself! More information of this system can be found here, it worked absolute wonders for me.

The reason you split up was because she lost attraction in you. She may never ever say that to your face but that’s the fact of the matter. It’s simple, you changed since you first started dating; she found you attractive then, so what’s gone wrong? Take the time to think about it, analyse your relationship, provided you didn’t do anything really bad, like kill her favourite dog, chances are it’s because you became what I have come to know as the “wussbag”; which is something that will frequently pop up here on this blog as it is a large part of male unattractiveness, and hinders your success with women.

For more information on how to get your girlfriend back check out ‘T-dub’s ‘Magic of Making Up’.

Also check out my blog on how to cope with breaking up.

How I got my girlfriend back part 2.

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